“Bismillahir rahmaanir raheem”
-in the name of Allah, The Most Gracious, The Most Merciful-
Alhamdulillah this journey of fay and family has been a rollercoaster that has taught us a great deal of lessons, myself first…
This blog initially started off just as something I enjoyed to do… I started a non-fictional blog called ‘silent living’.. Thus my name… But writing a true story has a few disadvantages and so I unfortunately had to delete the blog..
But due to my great passion for writing, I decided that no-one should come in my way of doing what makes me happy and so I started foreveramessup…
It started off as just a simple story of a young girl with marital problems and inlaw dilemmas.. But with the help of all the readers, I decided to make it beneficial… Not just a panchaat story that’s relatable to daily life, but solutions to our daily life problems at the same time…
And so the journey continued… We all hopped onto the train to find out ‘when we’ll ever succeed’ .
Fay had issues with her husband and inlaws but never was she rude or disrespectful to any of them… As a muslim, we are taught to keep our cool and always be the better person, especially to those who have wronged us…
Eventually the time came when ismail realised how pathetic his family really was and the truth about why he was so abusive finally came out..
In life we learn that those who were brought up in an abusive environment in most cases turn out to be abusive themselves… Very rarely are people saved from this vicious cycle of life..
Ismail had his moods… Most of us didn’t like him because of his abusive and disrespectful nature.. This teaches us to not be abusive or disrespectful… That our character towards our spouses and family is of utmost importance…
Ladies! If you have an abusive husband, my suggestion is run!!! Because 90% of men who abuse their wives even once will never change…. They’ll never stop abusing you… Maybe it will calm down for a while like ismail did… But it will continue forever because its in their nature…
You don’t have to put up with someones abuse because he makes you feel like no-one else will want you.. Because he’s made you believe that you are worthless.. You deserve much better in life..
Parents, respecting your spouse is vital… It plays a major part in your childs upbringing… Majority of kids from a healthy background, reciprocate such behaviour.. So show love to your spouse, comfort and support.. And this is what your child will do in return…
Mums… Kids are an amaanat, a trust… They need guidance all the time.. While they are young.. Go out of your way to teach them right from wrong and don’t allow anyone to come in your way.. Each parent has their own child to take care of and discipline in their own way… And you have yours.. No-one should tell you how to bring your child up and what works for one parent doesn’t always work for the next..
Once your kids are adults, allow them to make their own decisions.. Do not control them or interfere in any of the decisions they make.. Leave them to make their own mistakes. They’re after all adults and you have already taught them well enough what is right and wrong..
Support them in their decisions and be happy for them in everything that they do… All any human being ever wants is love and appreciation.
As human beings, let us always show love and appreciation… Because you never know what a difference you can make to someones life…
Be careful of how you treat others because we don’t know what difficulties or hardships the next person is silently going through..
Don’t over step any boundaries as muslims, parents, kids, wives, husbands, or human beings..
Salma and aqeel were loved by all.. They were the most favourite characters… Reason being… They were lovable, respectable and always jolly and carefree…That’s a lesson for us too..
From aqeels life we learnt that he honoured his first wife who took advantage of him… But Allah is Just and will never let a person suffer without recompensating him with something better. And his better was finally getting a homely girl like salma..
Salma kept herself chaste and no matter her circumstances did not give in to the temptations of this world.. Her test was waiting to get married till she was quite old even though she’d never adopted zina… But in the end, she found her gem… And because she did things the halaal way… Allah showed her the sweetness thereafter..
Dada and dadi were such loving and Allah fearing people and in the end we see how Allah took dadi in the best of conditions because of the effort of many years…
On the contrary, ismails parents were rotten… They abused him, lived materialistic lives, hated everyone, were stingy and small hearted…. And no-one liked them… The hadith says something to this effect.. That a generous person is close to Allah, close to the people, close to jannah and far from jahannam whereas a stingy person is far from Allah, far from (the hearts) of people, far from jannah and close to jahannam..
Let us open up our hearts and homes for everybody inshallah..
Rukaya was another most hated character… Let us ask ourselves why? It was because of her ingratitude, her evil ways, her anger, her bitterness… Let us ask ourselves How much of rukayas qualities do we have in our lives? If we do, let’s make an effort to change that..
Kulsum and sulaiman had changed their ways. Allah had tested them by not giving them kids.. This is a common test in todays time.. For those who are trying and Allah has not granted it to you.. My heart goes out to you.. Only you know what you’re going through and I pray that Allah grants every married couple beautiful normal and pious offspring inshallah… But if Allah hasn’t granted that to you, know that He is All-Wise and knows exactly the reason for everything.. He has something far greater planned for you instead..
Chotikhala… It is a sad reality that we are facing in todays times… Where zina is so prevalent… Young girls are falling pregnant and having abortions while others bring those innocent and illegitimate kids into this world… Half of them are unsure of whom the father is… And then we move on to the next man and the next man… As much as we want to believe that this doesn’t happen in our muslim communities, I’m afraid it does.. And as the days are drawing closer to qiyaamah, the times are only getting worse.. Its about time we leave the evil ways of the disbelievers and tart following the practices of the holy quraan and sunnah of our beloved nabi(S.A.W)..
This world is a prison for the believers… And a paradise for the disbelievers… Someone so beautifully explained that we take this world like its paradise for us when adam(alayhis salaam) was sent here as a punishment..
Know that whatever difficulty anyone is suffering from… Its all going to end someday.. Nothing besides Allah will last forever.. So hold on to the hope that Allah provides.. Hold on to the rope of islam and hold on until we reach our final abode…
There are so many more topics I would love to touch on, like sodomy, racism, music, dancing, entertainment, hijaab, modesty… And the list goes on… But unfortunately this is the end.. If you’d like more on these topics, reread the blog…
I would personally like to thank every person that took time to read this blog.. those who were silent readers and those who took time to comment.. Some occasionally and some on a daily basis..
As much as stats shouldn’t bother us, its what movated me to continue.. That people were still reading… The comments motivated me the most.. Some days giving me inspiration on what to write about next..
I loved the interaction and I loved those who corrected me with much wisdom where I went wrong..
To those who. May have hurt, offended or had slight arguments with, I beg of you from the bottom of my heart for forgiveness… We are all human and we are all trying our best to get to Allah.. Even though we may fall and fail many times, but our ultimate aim is to reach Allah someday..
There were down days where I felt like just giving up and quitting the blog.. Certain comments that put me down and made me despondent but overall its been an awesome journey and I would never be able to do it without all of you…
Just some people I feel obliged to mention for their greatest support and motivation…
A special jazakallah to you all…..
my next post will be details to my new blogs inshallah…