‘Bismillahir rahmaanir raheem’
(In the name of Allah, the Most kind, The Most Merciful)
Ismail was abit jet lagged and didn’t go to work the next day..lazy bones that he is…
imran called to find out if ismail had reached safely and if all was well on our side….it was really thoughtful of him…
But he also wanted to give us some good news…
Imran:”Maryam had gone for her check-up and the doctor was absolutely impressed with her condition…he said that her blood pressure seemed quite stable after a very long time and that the condition of her heart was looking good too…alhamdulillah…we can’t thank Allah enough for everything He’s doing for us…truly after every hardship comes ease…”
Me:”definitely…that is so lovely to hear…may Allah make it even easier for her and grant her complete cure”
Imran:”ameen!now where are those bubbly grandkids of mine?I’d love to wish them an early ramadaan mubarak..”
The kids were so overly excited to speak to their ‘dada’ and were fighting about who would speak first so I decided to put it on loud-speaker and allow them both to speak at the same time…
Imran:”assalaamu alakum kids…are you glad to have your daddy back home?”
Riyaad:”we missed him a lot”
Raadiya:”dada jazakallah for all the lovely gifts you sent us..I love the kitchen sets and the scrap book is my favourite…”
Imran:”its my pleasure sweety…and are you guys going to be keeping any fasts this ramadaan?”
Imran:”how many do you think you’re going to manage to fast?”
Riyaad:”we fasted all our fasts last year too dada…and we were only 5 last year..”
Imran:”alhamdulillah…mashallah…that’s awesome kids….well I’m going to call and check-up on you guys every now and then okay? To see how well you’re doing…and by the end of ramadaan, if you’ve kept ALL your fasts again this year, I’m going to buy you guys whatever you want…is that a deal?”
The twins giggled and looked at me for approval….I just smiled…it was an achievement…I couldn’t believe that they managed all last year…
My in-laws kept on nagging them to break their fast and I never heard the end of it….they repeatedly told everyone that I was forcing and pressurising my 5 year old kids to fast….but I swear I didn’t….
There were a few days last year that both riyaad and raadiya had abit of the flu and I’d told them that because they were not well, they shouldn’t fast but they insisted and actually threw tantrums for me to wake them up for sehri…
Riyaad even said that if I don’t wake him up for sehri, he’ll fast without sehri…and he said this with tears in his eyes…
All I did was explain to them the importance and reward of fasting…I told them about how Allah would grant them all that they desire in jannah…and that Allah especially loves a person who fasts…and when a child fasts, it makes Allah even more happy because a child doesn’t have to fast..
The ramadaan kiddies reward charts are a great initiative….but there were days that they’d even forget to put their star on their chart…fasting had just become a part of them….
I find it so strange because on eid day last year everyone gave me hell about forcing my kids to fast when they are so young..
Rukaya:”they have their whole life to fast faaiza…you shouldn’t have forced them…look at them now, shame…they’re gone so thin…”
I just rolled my eyes inwardly…
These are the same people who find their kids old enough to handle an i-pad and cellphone at the age of 4 and are freely allowed to do whatever they feel like on the PC..but when a person wishes to introducedeen at a young age, then ironically our kids are too small?
Me:”no no…there’s no need for gifts…just make dua for them..that’s all”
Imran:”I promise..I’ll buy anything for you guys ok?you just start looking for what it is you want and ask your mum or dad to send me the picture and I’ll buy it for you…”
I hope that imran is talking the truth…not that I want him to buy anything for the kids but I feel its so important to keep to a promise, especially with little kids…
They get so excited that someone is promising them something and they bank on it and when it doesn’t happen, their little hearts become despondent and I find that kids begin to lose trust in that way…
Something I live by ever since my kids were little, is that I try to keep to every promise I make them…even if its for a little treat afterwards, because I don’t want my kids growing up with trust issues and believing that all adults don’t keep to their promise…
I get especially annoyed when ismail promises that he’ll take them here and there because ismail has a terrible habit of not fulfilling his promises..and he always leaves my kids disheartened….
#revive the sunnah of miswaak