part 155:

After maghrib, when everyone was back from work and kids were back from madressah we sat down for supper……

Dadi was talking to salma and giving her some really good advice while dada, aqeel and ismail were in their own business world….

Dadi:”we must do this more often….its so lovely to have a house full again…ever since faaiza beti and them came to stay here, our lives are so full and happy…you know when you get old, most people are very lonely…everyone forgets about you…”

Sal:”dadi we’ll never forget about you…you are just too sweet and too important and we love you…”

Dada:”we make lots of shukr for you all….its so sad how people treat their older folks you know..they are shoved away to old-age homes and forgotten about…”

faaiza:”that’s why we didn’t allow you people to leave dada..we wanted you a part of our lives….we love you too much”

Dada:”I know beti, I know….the other day I went over to visit a friend of mine…he’s very old…about 5 years elder than me…what a good man he was in our days….very intelligent and wise and absolutely hard working…and the 2 of us were good friends but as the years went by, you know we lose track a little…and someone told me that he was really not well and living on his own……”

Faaiza:”shame that’s sad dada…what’s worng with him?doesn’t he have any family?”

Dada:”yes yes beti..he does…but unfortunately they’re not interested in looking after him..they say he’s becoming a nuisance and messes everywhere and its too much for them so they’ve dumped him in some retirement flat…”

Aqeel:”no that’s sad hey…our parents put up with us when we’re little and ‘forever messing’ everywhere….and then when they’re old we forget all the patience they had with us…”

Dada:”this friend of mine apparently suffers from alzheimers…..you know, they forget everything…but I was so surprised when he remembered me(small smile)…but then someone explained to me that he remembers things of his past…from when he was young..just bits and pieces….then It made sense why he couldn’t understand that I was married and had children and grand children and now great grandchildren..”

Ismail:”so is he living alone?”

Dada:”jee all alone..but there’s these social workers that come and check up on him and all the other old people in the flat also check on him and try to keep him company, bring him food and make sure he takes his medication regularly…but they say he doesn’t remember whether he ate or not, or whether he performed his salaah or not….the other day he was walking out of the complex in his pyjamas at 10 o clock at night and luckily the security guard stopped him…he said he was on his way to work…(Shaking his head)”

Its sounds funny…lol..but its actually quite sad…what if something happened to him?or no-one found him…where would he end up?poor man!

I always pray that Allah must never let me reach old age and make me dependant on others…I want to rather die young so I don’t cause any kind of inconvenience to anyone..I don’t want to be a burden to anyone inshallah….

Dadi:”you know he’s got 2 very wealthy sons..but their wives have an upper hand on them and refused to take him in to look after him..their wives say that he’s lying…there’s no such a thing…he’s acting the whole thing out for attention..they feel that they are paying for his flat so that’s good enough….they don’t even visit him occasionally…”

Faaiza:”and no daughters dadi?daughters usually have a soft spot for their fathers…”

Dadi:”he had 1 daughter but she doesn’t even keep in touch with any of them…she left islam and is now married to a non-muslim living in cape town or somewhere…..”

Faaiza:”innaa lillah…..that is so sad….may Allah always keep us on the right path….”

I remember once hearing on the radio that negligence and disobedience to parents is such a major sin, that for every other sin, a person will be punished in the grave or the hereafter..but the punishment for disregarding our parents will be metered out in this world…

Do we forget that we too are oneday going to be old? That we also are going to need someone to look after us?…we aren’t going to be independent our whole lives. and the way we deal with our parents, is how we are going to be dealt with…

That’s just how the world works,…that’s how Allah has made life…that we will definitely pay for our evil ways, if not in this world, then in the hereafter…

And for those who sacrifice, have patience and look after their parents, respect them and obey them, most definitely Allah is Most Just and will repay us in a manner that we can and will never be able to comprehend for our kindness…

The reward is great because the task at hand is so great….it may not be the easiest thing to do..to have patience is tough..but if we consider the prizes we will be awarded for our patience…then it will be no major deal….

Ask me, a person who unfortunately wasn’t given the opportunity to look after my parents, or witness them reaching old age….I would do anything to get the opportunity…to serve them for as long as possible for all the love and kindness they’ve shown to me throughout my life…

But I guess that’s why Allah has made it possible for me to serve dada and dadi. It is my opportunity…alhamdulillah for that….

And then we get ismail….who’s parents treat him like rubbish and don’t even bother whether his dead or alive….

But its still his duty to look after them and see to them….being pregnant I’ve realised, that carry this little being in your tummy and going through so much to bring them safely into this world is not the easiest task ever….and for that we should be ever grateful to our mothers…

I think its time ismail mends a broken family….he can make the difference ishallah…


Authors note:
Jannah page updated
Jokes page updated
Rajab&sha’baan page updated
Please don’t forget to read the dua for rajab as we have already entered the month of rajab
And jumu’ah mubarak to every person reading this blog…may the Almighty grant every person guidance on this great day and accept all our hearts prayers inshallah(if Allah wills)…
Please read as much durood as possible upon the noblest of all creation, nabi mohammed mustapha(S.A.W)

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11 thoughts on “part 155:

  1. sister/in/Islam says:

    Jumuah Mubarak 2 u all also !!!
    Its soo true abt looking afta the old ….. What goes arnd comes arnd … If we r kind to others – when we r in need , ‎​اللَّهُ will send ppl to help us ‎​​إنشاءالله !!!!!

    Its soo good of Fay to try n mend ismails relationship wid his family – may ‎​اللَّهُ make it successful n reunite the family – may ‎​اللَّهُ soften their hearts – ‎​​​​آمين

    May u all hav a very spiritually uplifting day – ‎​​​​آمين

    ‎​صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ
    ‎​صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ
    ‎​صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ

  2. A says:

    Jummah Mubarak to u to mess author and all the readers of this blog
    جزاك الله خيرا for highlighting such an important topic regarding treatment for the elderly esp our own parents, it is so sad that we have become like the non Muslims who only see their parents on occasions eg Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Eid day etc n forget their sacrifices wen we were small

  3. zana says:

    In society, beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. In Islam, beauty lies in the heart of the believer. Allah is so wise, He never created friends and family with price tags. If He did, I would never be able to afford people as valuable, special and important as you. In Allah’s eyes, love is never absent. In Allah’s heart, forgiveness is never impossible. In my duas and in my thoughts, you are never forgotten.
    جمعية مبارك

    Hope ismail mother is not horrible and mean to him again and blame everything on faaiza again when all she wants to do is bring them together for the pleasure of allah

  4. Sadiya says:

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  5. Shabana says:

    If you want to know the value of your parents, ask an orphan. Ask me, who yearns for my dad every single day. Five seconds will be enough. I just want five seconds more.. May Allah grant all marhoom the highest ranks in jannah and forgive their sins, Insha’Allah Ameen.

    It will be sadaqah jaariah for Faaiza if she encourages Ismail to mend his relationship with his mum.

    Great post, Jazakallah.

    Jummah Mubarak all..

    • Deff..its sad that many only realise the value of sumone or sumthing once its gone…

      May Allah make it easy for u and your family and may Allah grant your beloved father maghfirat and the highest stages of jannatul firdous inshallah….

  6. rooksana says:

    Masha allah. Well sed. Vvvy gOod statement n advices regarding parents r mentioned?
    Ameen 2 all duas.
    Keep up da good wrk.

  7. Sister A. says:

    Important point made on caring 4 the elderly. We must respect & value our parents while dey still alive so dat we hav no regrets wen dey gone. I kno how Ʋ feel sister Shabana as I don’t hav a mum. May ﷲ mk it easy 4 Ʋ. May ﷲ mk maghfirat of Ӑℓℓ da marhoomeen. May HE fill Ӑℓℓ their Qabrs wid Nur & grant dem Jannatul Firdous widout any reckoning ​آمِيْن.

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