Moulana:” I will conclude with my last bit of advice…not to say there isn’t any more….but this wasn’t supposed to be a bayaan, it is a walma function….so we will keep it short so that everyone will remember these important advices….
A pious aalim once related a wonderful analogy of marriage. He compared it to a garden, a beautiful, well maintained garden is well appreciated and valued. However, weeds very often become a problem and threaten to spoil the natural beauty of the garden. If these weeds are ‘nipped in the bud’ (removed as soon as they become apparent), they can easily be uprooted and the garden will continue to thrive.. But, if they are left unattended and allowed to invade the garden, they will become deep rooted and spoil the beauty of the garden. Even if they are removed later, when they have already grown into ‘small trees’, the roots will remain embedded and they may occasionally rear their ugly heads.
Similarly, a marriage too, no matter how rosy it may seem at the outset, it will sometimes be faced with difficulties and problems, like weeds in an unattended garden. If we nip theses initial problems in the bud (that is discuss and resolve them) when they surface, then we can promote a happy married relationship and make that bond of love even stronger. But if we ignore the initial stumbling blocks and pretend that they don’t exist, then these problems may increase and become a threat to the marriage, and Allah forbid, they may become so deep-rooted that attempts to remedy them later may fail. Even if , insha’allah they are resolved, they could still taint the love and affection of the couple for many years to come., and make life very unpleasant..”
Shuffling could be heard over the mike and then moulana began making dua…I said ameen to every dua especially when moulana made the following duas and a few tears came strolling down..
Moulana:”yaa Allah, fill this marriage with strong imaan, everlasting good health, wealth, joy, happiness, prosperity and pious children.
Yaa Allah, instill love and mercy within the couples hearts for one another
Yaa Allah, grant them both the ability to fulfill your commands, discharge one anothers rights and emulate the beautiful example of your beloved nabi muhammad(S.A.W)
Ameen ameen yaa rabbal aalameen”
Everyone wiped away their tears and there was still silence when mamu was back behind the mike..
Mamoo:”jazakallahu khair to moulana sahib for those beautiful pearls of wisdom…may we all take in what has been said and rectify where we have gone wrong in our marriages…
Now everyone, I won’t keep you from what you’ve actually come here to do today, and that is……to eat!
Unfortunately, as your mouths have all been watering for lovely ‘dheg birani’ …there will be no dheg biryani served today….we have a lovely spread of all kinds of sea food from prawns, kingklip, calamari, soles, chips, rice, lobster , crab curry, and much much more…so go ahead, start opening up those chaffing dishes and don’t forget to read your dua….assalamualaykum”
Everyone laughed and started off to the centre where the food had been beautifully set out buffet style…
Fay:”what can I get you to eat sal?(Picking up my plate)”
Me:”just now….let the rush finish and I’ll go myself(putting the plate back down)”
Fay:”you crazy?! You’re the bride….today you shall be served my dear(giggle)”
Me:(rolling eyes)”well I’m not one of those brides that are just going to sit here and wait to be served..I want to get up and walk around and talk to everyone….”
Fay sat next to me and I looked around at the many people that were here..I always found it amusing to see how people dressed and carried on at a function…I could sit for hours just analysing…
I noticed the very young ones dressed in their fitting and revealing dressed with the craziest of heels…
I noticed the mothers chatting away and laughing with people they probably have met in ages…
I noticed the elderly sitting at the tables with their tasbeehs reading away…
I noticed a few kids tugging onto their mothers whining and nagging while others were running around stealing the little packets of souk mouk that laid on the tables…
But something rather different caught my eye….
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