part 143:

Rumana:”so sals…we want deeetails hey..of like everything..how was it?tell us..tell us….”

I looked at her annoyed and the smile washed off my face…

Was this girl psycho or just terribly immature…?did she actually think I was going to tell her what goes on behind MY closed doors?that is a line I will never cross…what happens between aqeel and myself is OUR damn business and no-one elses….

How immoral it is when girls or guys sit around with their friends discussing all the intimacy….ofcourse your friends are going to start thinking of your husband or wife in a totally haraam manner..how would you feel if your closest friends are committing zina(adultery) with your spouse in their minds?ugh…just the thought of it disgusts me…

I guess the sharam(modesty) has been lost in todays time…..

Luckily there was an announcement over the loud speaker that interrupted and I didn’t have to go any further into this conversation that shouldn’t even ever be….

Speaker:”(clearing throat)bismillahir rahmaanir raheem…assalaamu alaykum ladies and gentleman, young and old…..my name is mamoo and I will be your MC for this afternoon…we won’t keep you waiting as we know that you all should be quite hungry at the moment and since its a buffet style, there’s no papar or salad to finish up on the tables before the meal is served..(Pause for everyone to laugh)…..but we the host would like to start this blessed occasion with the beautiful recitation of the noble quraan by a young cousin of the groom who will render a short portion of the quraan insha-Allah…we humbly request that everything be stopped during the recitation as the quraan is the speech of Allah and deserves the utmost respect at all times…if you are for some reason unable to adhere to respecting the quraan, you are more than welcome to leave and return when your matters are complete…so without further ado I’d like to call upon uwais to bless this gathering with the words of Allah”

Silence…..

Uwais:”(clearing throat) a’oothu billaa himinash shaytaanir rajeeeeeeeeeeem”

And uwais…whoever he was…began reciting the verses of the holy quraan…..his beautiful voice echoed through the mikes…his tajweed was perfect and added to the beauty of the words he was reciting…

He recited the verses pertaining to nikaah…
“And amongst His signs is this, that He created for you mates from amongst yourselves,that you may dwell in tranquility with them and He has placed love and mercy between your hearts. Undoubtedly in these are signs for those who reflect…(Suratur rum)”

Once he was done an alim gave a small talk….he gave some beautiful advices which could possibly be of great value to my new life….

Molana:”assalaamu alaykum warahmatullah my respected brothers and sisters…just a few advices to the couple on this blessed day of theirs before undertaking such an important journey of their lives..
I’d like to just point out one golden principle that nees to be kept in mind to achieve the maximum benefit in a marriage…and that is…to strive towards fulfilling the rights due to your spouse,rather than being concerned with the fulfillment of your own rights…this inevitably leads to greater mutual harmony…. whereas constantly reminding your spouse to fulfil your rights may only lead to discord…”

this is so true…..I hope I don’t end up being one of those who keep reminding aqeel to fulfil my rights, but I also wish he on his own knows what his rights are…

I suppose the benefits of being married at a later stage rather than when we’re young is that you now realise how much more responsibility there is in marriage..instead of thinking that marriage Is merely for fun and to show off your specially designed extremely costly wedding gown and all the other intricate details at a wedding function…

Like mufti saheb always likes to put it:”the wedding nowadays lasts longer than the marriage”…..lol

Moulana:”my dear sisters..remember that a womans reputation is like a white sheet….its supposed to remain spotless…not even a slight stain should be noticed on it….the minute we do something out of line, a spot is placed on this white sheet….and that stain cannot be removed except by making immense taubah….but after years, that stain can come back…and your same actions may haunt you later in life….try to keep yourself from that torture….remain as pure as Allah has made you….”

That’s so true…..a girls reputation somehow is so much more delicate….and can be broken in a mere second..but to rebuild that reputation can sometimes take many years…

I can’t thank Allah enough for saving me from the haraam this world has presented to me…..alhamdulillah so far I have managed to keep my reputation…but this is not the end for me..I have to try my best to still uphold my reputation…not for anyone else…but for Allah….

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12 thoughts on “part 143:

  1. sister/in/Islam says:

    ‎​​​ما شاء الله
    Absolutely beautiful advice , not only for young unmarried or newly married but also for older married couples – ‎​​​​جزاك الله
    Luckily Rumana’s question got interrupted.
    ( its soo true that wen ppl talk abt their bedroom matters , others start picturing it – n dat may evn b a form of porn _ may ‎​اللَّهُ save us , ‎​​​​آمين ). …. Shaytaan tries in many ways to cause havoc in ppl’s lives – n da beginning of marriage is a good way for him – but ‎​​​الحمد لله Salma n Aqeel are trying really hard to stick to Islamic rules – may ‎​اللَّهُ take dem from strenght to strength – ‎​​​​آمين

    ‎​​​​جزاك الله

    • Deff good advice to even us who are married…I think newly married couples don’t so much need the advice as much as we who are married a couple of years do..because we tend to take things for granted and forget these little important things

  2. U says:

    Excellent advice we all can learn from.جزاك الله خيرا for your hard work n dedication.May اللَّه سُبْحَانَهُ وَتَعَالَى reward you.آمين

  3. rooksana says:

    Masha allah
    Good advise has been mention. May we all take lesson 4rm dem ameen.
    Dey say marriage is not a bed of roses. Der is a lot of sacrifice u have 2 mk. Allah mk easy 4 all of us ameen

  4. A says:

    ما شاءالله such beautiful advices for couples whether old or young, may الله grant us the ability to put others before ourselves esp our spouses n kids
    It is so disgusting wen ppl ask u to spill the beans on the most intimate moments of bring with ur partners n think it’s normal to know what happened

  5. Sister A. says:

    Importnt points made. Sad but true, Hayaa is definately lacking °̩и 2days time & age. Youth of 2day have no shame °̩и da way dey dress, speak & behave. Wen Hayaa has left their homes wat can we xpect frm dem wen dey °̩и public. Dis is a result of 2 much freedom & a lack of parental control wid the children. Many parents complain dat they can’t tel their children anyting. Roles hav been reversed. The parents r afraid of their children nowadays. These same children grow in2 shameless teenagers & den in2 shameless adults. It all starts wid a proper upbringing wen da children r stil small. Bt, unfortunately we leave dem wen dey little ,saying dey still small we can’t b so strict. Wen dey older & gone out of hand we cry bcause now its not easy 2 rectify wats gone wrong & da children hav bcum rebellious. Parents need 2 tk responsibility 4 da upbringing of der children. May ﷲ guide us all. ​آمِيْن

    • Very very true…my sentiments exactly…upbringing starts from the beginning..it boils my blood when I reprimand my kids about something and someone tells me ‘leave them, they’re children!”….ugh…those very parents that are scared of their children, its their own fault for not showing them who’s parent and who’s child from the beginning…
      Love this comment!

  6. concerned fan says:

    Good advice sister. I just want to highlight a point, in todays times and society only a girls reputation is important, boys can do as they please and most people dont care. In the eyes of Allah and on the day of reckoning our gender doesn’t matter, wrong is wrong whether you are a boy or girl. There are males and females reading this blog, we(including myself) have become so narrow that it is essential for an author to mention every aspect of a topic otherwise males think it is fine to do the wrong.

    I hope I haven’t offended anyone by saying this 🙂

    • Jx so much for bringing up such an important point..ofcourse its a fact..a woman is always regarded more delicate and her reputation can easily be tarnished…however in the eyes of Allah men and women are deff equal…
      Will maybe bring that up in either the next post or one of my future posts inshallah…
      It does need to be highlighted so there’s no way that anyone should take offence..because if we are the type that regard a girl bad for doing something and don’t look down upon a guy that does the exact same thing, then we need to change that….because Allah won’t look at gender on the day of qiyaamah….neither will he look at colour and neither race nor height or stature….
      Excellent!

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