AT THE MAYYIT-part 2
Aunty Saabira:”assalaamu alaykum my bachu….(Hugging salma)…how you doing ma?”
Salma:”I should be asking you aunty saabira…how you holding up?may Allah make it easy for you people all and grant him jannatul firdous inshallah…”
Aunty S:”you know these tears I shed(wiping away a tear from her cheek)..these are tears of joy…my goolam is in such a better place now….he has nothing to account for…he had changed his life so much and become a complete muttaqi(Allah fearing person)…not only that..but he is the cause of us all changing our lives in this house and coming on to deen(religion)…and he paSsed away as a shaheed…what more could we ask for?”
Me:”you’re so strong aunty saabira..mashallah…wish we all could be so strong…”
Aunty S:”goolam always used to say when things got tough for him that a true believer is one who makes sabr immediately when they’ve been afflicted with difficulty…not after days and days and after things have cooled down…..that’s not sabr”
That’s so true….and when a beloved is taken away and a person has sabr…allah sends peace unto that person and mercy and they are the blessed ones of Allah…..Allah praises such a person in the heavens to all the angels….
Aunty saabira asked us to sit and read some yaaseen for him…and there were paras of the quraan…if possible we should try and read for him as much as possible….
She obviously went to sit in a little room where the mayyit was kept…surprisingly there was a sign on the door…the sign read:
“Kindly be advised that only the mahrams of the mayyit may enter this room…no naa mahrams allowed whatsoever…”
Normally, people don’t care about these things…anyone and everyone just sit near the mayyit, not realising how haraam this is…
Since we were of no connection to goolam, salma and I moved to the larger lounge and took a seat on the grey blankets that were laid down…
there were ladies of all ages sitting in the lounge with us…most of them either had tasbeehs in their hands, since there were no beads to found like there is at most mayyits..others had yaaseens or a para and others just sat idle…but almost every group of ladies were chatting away and whispering while reading…
This got me thinking..we want to make a couple of khatams(completions) of the quraan, yet half the people are not even reading correctly..talking inbetween and not even reciting ta’awwuth again before carrying on for another 5 minutes and then putting in a word or 2 to the person next to them….
I noticed a couple of ladies with their tasbeehs who were reading away and turning beads so fast, I could not for the life of me understand what in the world they could be reading so fast…even if they were making thikr of the word Allah, it was way too fast…
Then in one corner was a group of teenage girls, whispering and giggling to eachother..2 of them typing away on their cellphones….
Another few ladies walked in..probably a mother and 2 daughters…the mother had such an expensive looking abaya on…..it was dazzling so much that we’d be able to notice her even if the lights were all switched on….
The daughters abayas were tailored to perfection…the one had her abaya lifted up enough for us to see her tightly fitted jeggings under while the others abaya was open in the front and the most revealing clothes to be seen under….
All 3 of them had the huge camel hump on their heads with abit of their fringe sticking out in the front….
I watched as they carefully sat down, quite aware that they’d brought so much attention to themselves but pretending as if they hadn’t noticed everyone staring at them….
They picked up a yaaseen and began reading while occasionally glancing around the room to see who was there and who wasn’t….
Allahu akbar I thought….what if this was my mayyit?is this how people are going to be praying for me?is that what a mock we’ve made of islam?we want to practice islam in the way that suits us best…we read quraan with our hair sticking out….we reading the quraan while infact the quraan is cursing us….
Because clearly the quraan talks about modesty…the quraan talks about attracting attention and how haraam it is for a woman to leave her home dressed in the most inappropriate way that draws so much of attention…
We fool ourselves into believing that we are dressed islamicly…that we are covered and in hijaab….but are we really?
If nabi(S.A.W) had to stand infront of us right now, would he be pleased with the way we’re dressed and with our behaviour?
A mayyit is supposed to be a place of contemplation….a place where we start to take stock of our lives and realise that we could be next…
Some of the ladies had so much of perfume on that it could be smelt from a mile away…and to think that they had to walk past all those men at the entrance…and nabi(S.A.W) had warned us that if a woman applies perfume and walks past a group of men who smell her fragrance..she is regarded as an adulterer…
Imagine if someone had to call us a slut/prostitute or whore to our faces…..we would be enraged…..yet here nabi(S.A.W)..the best of creation…who never had a bad word for anyone is called us the above mentioned words…..
I made a firm intention in my heart to try and start wearing abaya full time….inshallah…and I would really love to go into purdah….but I don’t know how ismail would react to it….
I sighed and got up to fetch a yaaseen instead..all of this was too much for me and it pained me dearly…
Just as I was about to sit down I heard some commotion coming from near the room where the mayyit was kept….